Life is Full of Choices

Every day we have choices.  Every day we make a decision.  Conscientiously or not, we do. Some of us have the ability and blessing to do these things of our own free will.  Others not so much whether bound by law or by mental issues.  For the moment, let’s assume we’re legally free and are mentally stable.  (Although, I might argue that some people think they are mentally stable when in fact they are a few French fries short of a happy meal, or have no common sense.)

Some choices are easier than others.  Some are just downright stressful.  And some are lots of fun to make.

  • We have the choice to get out of bed in the morning or to stay in it.
  • We have the choice of what we listen to on the radio or not listen to it at all.
  • We have the choice to be good people or not.
  • We have the choice to go to church or not.
  • We have the choice to drink soda drinks or not.
  • We have the choice to be happy or to let our surrounding (people, circumstances) dictate our mood.  (Ok, so this one tends to happen subconsciously, but still.)
  • We have the choice to learn or not.
  • We have the choice to engage our brain, to think before acting or not.
  • We have the choice to let mob mentality dictate what we do.
  • We have the choice to give in to peer pressure.
  • We have the choice to let the media lead us in the direction they choose.
  • We have the choice to believe everything we read on the internet.
  • We have the choice to play it safe or not.
  • We have the choice to eat healthy or not. (This one is a bit harder since eating healthy is sometimes more expensive than eating fast food.)
  • We have the choice to smile or not.
  • We have the choice to be responsible adults or not.
  • We have the choice to tell the truth or not.
  • We have the choice to trust or not.
  • We have the choice to be ourselves or not.

This could go on and on… there are more than likely and infinite number of choices we can make every day.

One decision sometimes leads us to our next choices.  Sometimes our indecision leads us to our next choices.  By doing nothing or by doing something, we’ve made a choice.  Crazy, huh?  We can assume life is leading us somewhere when in fact we have more control than we think through our choices and the decisions we make.

For instance, I’m lucky enough to be given the choice to decide what I want to do.  The tough part is figuring out what to do.  I don’t want to choose poorly or make a hasty decision.  (Done that before, it didn’t turn out well.)  And I don’t want to do something just to be doing something.  But maybe that’s the point.  Maybe I should just do “something” because it might lead me to a choice where I have to make a bigger to decide on something beneficial to my career or my “life” (family, career, future, “the big picture”).

Ok… I think I just segued into fate.

Hmmm… interesting…. choices and fate.

Does fate lead us to our choices?  Or do our choices lead us to our fate?

Personally, I think it’s a combo of the 2, but who knows?  Life is full of choices.


#Life #Choices #HardToDecide


The Giving Season

We all know that Christmas, “The Holidays”, as we now refer to them is for Giving.  (Yea… whatever… I call it Christmas, you call it whatever you want.)

As the saying goes… “It’s better to give than to receive.” The act of giving allows you to receive the joy, love, gratitude, excitement, etc. from the person you are giving to.  But Giving doesn’t have to be material/physical in nature. (Unless you want to give me a bottle of wine or a million dollars, I’m not going to dissuade you.  LOL!)

Sure, you can give someone a gift that is heartfelt, homemade, a memento of past experiences, a symbol of your love… yada yada.

The Evil Retailers  …. have turned the Giving Season into an over-crazed spending holiday to get people to buy more and more crap we don’t really need to begin with.  They’ve managed to convince everyone that it’s better to spend a gazillion dollars on “stuff” rather than to spend time with one another.  In some cases, the only reason we get together is so we can exchange the “stuff-that-we-don’t-need-or-want”.

So… stop giving “stuff” and start giving your time, your efforts, your friendship, your camaraderie, your love through other means.  AKA… Spend time with friends and family.

Go to lunch, go window shopping, get everyone together to cruise holiday decorations, happy hour…. Share a cup of coffee, cocoa, tea, (or in my case a glass of wine)…. Take an exercise class together, help each other wrap presents, bake cookies… Whatever… The point is…. Do something fun that will create a memory…. GIVE a little bit of yourself.

Giving your time is something that is much more meaningful and in my opinion much more valuable.  Everyone is rushing around to shop for presents when what we really should be doing is spending time with one another.  Ditch the gifts (unless they are white elephant … because seriously I love how creative some people get), and let’s just hang out and do something together.  The pictures and selfies we take will for sure be memorialized forever on social media, and probably pop back up from time to time.  It’s the gift that keeps giving especially if they are silly.  🙂

I consider myself lucky in that the people in my life like to “do stuff”…. like go to a concert, a movie or my favorite… do an exercise class and then go drinking afterwards. #WeWorkoutToDrink

Ok…. enough ranting…. I’d like to Thank my family and friends who take time out of their days to give their time to me.  You know who you are… Seriously if I have to call you out, you aren’t paying attention.  And if you want me to come over and help you bake while drinking wine or wrap presents while drinking wine (you see a trend, right?), Call Me!

Merry Christmas, Everyone!

Breathing… Not As Easy As It Sounds

How many of you have actually “thought” about breathing?

Probably not many… unless you start choking or drowning… then all you can do is think about that next breath.

No… I mean on a regular basis, do you think about your breath?
How it feels?
Where you feel it in your body?
Is it a shallow breath?
Is it a deep breath?
Is it slow?
Is it fast?
Does it fill your entire being and make your rib cage expand?
Can you breathe deeper sending your breath to your toes?

While I’m not going to get all philosophical or preachy, I learned to breathe … I mean really breath in my Yoga classes. Some instructors focus on the art of breathing more than others. Some will take like 5-10 minutes of a class to focus on just breathing. While this might sound easy, it’s one of the harder things to do because it requires focus and concentration. I’m thankful for it. It’s helped me with my Yoga practice and with getting into deeper stretches (well for me they are deeper). It’s also helped me in other parts of my life.

Breathing is more than simply inhaling and exhaling. I’m not going to pretend to be an expert on it. But I know this…. Breathing has helped me relax my mind… turn off the noise and fall asleep. Sure… some nights take more focus than others, but it really has helped. By focusing on my breath, slowing it down, deepening the breath and focusing on what I feel and how I feel, has helped me fall asleep without the fight. I’ve cut down the tossing and turning from 2 hours to 30 minutes. That’s good for me.

It also helps me during my Chiropractic visits. Breathe to relax. Breathe to release. Breathe to let go. It’s not easy. It’s a fully conscious effort. Our natural response to things that hurt or are tense is to stop breathing, hold our breath or to take shorter breaths. Don’t. My adjustments are better when I breathe. Of course, it helps that my chiro cues me when to breathe deep and then when to release it slowly.

Breathing… I think this is why when you get angry, people say to take deep breaths. What the saying doesn’t say, is that you should focus on the breath and sending it to different parts of your body. Not an easy feat when you’re fuming.

Breathing… Focus on it. Really feel it. It’s not as easy as it sounds, but I highly recommend you try it sometime. 🙂