Life is Full of Choices

Every day we have choices.  Every day we make a decision.  Conscientiously or not, we do. Some of us have the ability and blessing to do these things of our own free will.  Others not so much whether bound by law or by mental issues.  For the moment, let’s assume we’re legally free and are mentally stable.  (Although, I might argue that some people think they are mentally stable when in fact they are a few French fries short of a happy meal, or have no common sense.)

Some choices are easier than others.  Some are just downright stressful.  And some are lots of fun to make.

  • We have the choice to get out of bed in the morning or to stay in it.
  • We have the choice of what we listen to on the radio or not listen to it at all.
  • We have the choice to be good people or not.
  • We have the choice to go to church or not.
  • We have the choice to drink soda drinks or not.
  • We have the choice to be happy or to let our surrounding (people, circumstances) dictate our mood.  (Ok, so this one tends to happen subconsciously, but still.)
  • We have the choice to learn or not.
  • We have the choice to engage our brain, to think before acting or not.
  • We have the choice to let mob mentality dictate what we do.
  • We have the choice to give in to peer pressure.
  • We have the choice to let the media lead us in the direction they choose.
  • We have the choice to believe everything we read on the internet.
  • We have the choice to play it safe or not.
  • We have the choice to eat healthy or not. (This one is a bit harder since eating healthy is sometimes more expensive than eating fast food.)
  • We have the choice to smile or not.
  • We have the choice to be responsible adults or not.
  • We have the choice to tell the truth or not.
  • We have the choice to trust or not.
  • We have the choice to be ourselves or not.

This could go on and on… there are more than likely and infinite number of choices we can make every day.

One decision sometimes leads us to our next choices.  Sometimes our indecision leads us to our next choices.  By doing nothing or by doing something, we’ve made a choice.  Crazy, huh?  We can assume life is leading us somewhere when in fact we have more control than we think through our choices and the decisions we make.

For instance, I’m lucky enough to be given the choice to decide what I want to do.  The tough part is figuring out what to do.  I don’t want to choose poorly or make a hasty decision.  (Done that before, it didn’t turn out well.)  And I don’t want to do something just to be doing something.  But maybe that’s the point.  Maybe I should just do “something” because it might lead me to a choice where I have to make a bigger to decide on something beneficial to my career or my “life” (family, career, future, “the big picture”).

Ok… I think I just segued into fate.

Hmmm… interesting…. choices and fate.

Does fate lead us to our choices?  Or do our choices lead us to our fate?

Personally, I think it’s a combo of the 2, but who knows?  Life is full of choices.

 

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Take the Time to Make Moments into Memories

People talk about “making” time. I used to say it myself. But when you think about it… you can’t “make” time. Otherwise, every student in school would find a way to “make” more time to delay a test or a due date or something, and every mother would figure out how to “make” more time to delay their kids from growing up.

But we can “take” the time….for ourselves, for our family, for our friends and for our community.

  • We can take the time to spend with our grandparents (whether they remember it or not.)
  • We can take the time to do lunch with a friend.
  • We can take the time to read to our kids.
  • We can take the time to learn a new skill or hobby.
  • We can take the time to volunteer.
  • We can take the time to enjoy a picnic with family.
  • We can take the time to exercise.
  • We can take the time to escape to a movie.
  • We can take the time to go on a weekend vacation with family.
  • We can take the time to listen… just listen.

But it’s up to you/me/us, to prioritize our activities and take the time to do what we know we should be doing but don’t.

I’ve known for a few years now how important it is not to take life for granted. But it’s just recently that I’ve learned how important it is to “take” the time to do what’s important to you/me and my family.

  • We take plenty of time to work.
  • We take lots of time worrying about the “what ifs” and the “maybes”.
  • We take time rushing around, running around, trying to do more and more.
  • … And we spend way too much time stressing about things we can’t control.

Everyone complains about not having enough time. It’s not about having “enough time”. It’s about making the most of the time you’re given. We don’t know exactly how much time that is. Some have more than others. We just don’t know. I think that’s why we all choose to complain about the “alleged time we don’t have”. So, if you choose not to take some time for yourself or your family, then you damn well better embrace what it is you are spending your time on, and don’t complain about it.  While the time might be rough, it’s still your time and you’re the only one that can spend it.

  • Yes, you have work and deadlines.
  • Yes, you have to go to school and you have to take tests.
  • Yes, your kids have soccer practice and gymnastics.
  • Yes, you have responsibilities. You can’t ignore them and you can’t make them go away or vanish.

I’m incredibly fortunate and blessed to have the life I have, and that I can take time this year to do what I want and feel are the right things to do.  Life hasn’t been easy but then again, it hasn’t been all that hard compared to others.  I try to put what goes on in my life into perspective to what other people in different areas are having to deal with, and I know that I’m super lucky.  I have a great family and am surrounded by wonderful friends.  I try to say “Thank You” and “I Love You” and give hugs as often as I can because 1) I want those around me to know I care about them and appreciate them, and 2) I’ve learned the hard way that you might not get the chance if you wait for “later” or “next time.”

But it’s up to you/me/us to stop b*tching about “not having time”, and Take the Time to do something fun, something meaningful, something that gives back. So, when you take the time to do something fun with your family and friends, embrace those moments and enjoy the memories. Because while it would be nice to Take All The Time in the world to have fun and play, it’s just not realistic. But every now and then (as much as you can afford) …. Take the Time to Make Moments into Memories.

Stop and Smell the Roses

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Life has a way of kicking you in the teeth when you least expect it.

One afternoon you are driving home, tired, and thinking how good it will feel to jump in the pool to cool off and enjoy a cocktail to unwind. The next thing you know, your mother-in-law has blacked out and is in the hospital. Less than a week later, she’s declared brain dead and has passed.

Flashback a little over a month…. you, your husband, your mom and your in-laws are in wine country. Enjoying a trip that was a “we should” and “we want to” weekend to wine country. Well, my husband finally “made it happen” this year because Nascar and his Mom’s 60th birthday were all in the same weekend and the race was in Sonoma. So, this was the perfect weekend to “do it all” and “do it up”.

We spent 2 days… all of us… visiting wineries and enjoying meals and sipping lots of wine. And then Sunday… the boys went their way to Nascar and us girls went our own way to do a wine tour and more tastings. My MIL wanted to do a cave tour and so I found a nice yet smallish winery that had a nice one that wasn’t too taxing because I know my MIL has bad ankles and often tires and pains easily.

As we waited for our tour to start (we were like 20 minutes early), we wandered the garden area near the entrance. It was mostly roses with a variety of other flowers (which I couldn’t name because I’m not good with flower varieties or names.) Anyways… we smelled the flowers and commented on which roses smelled sweetest and took pictures of the flowers. Basically, we were taking a moment to smell the roses.

When our tour began, we learned that we were having a “private” tour because the other folks who had signed up had cancelled. So, it was just the 3 of us with Bernard, our guide. It was great to ask questions and take our time. We weren’t rushed. Bernard explained and pointed out that the roses were more than just pretty features. They were planted at the end of each row of vines for a very important reason. The vineyard manager would walk the vineyard on a regular basis not to just check the vines and the grapes… but to check the roses. As it turns out, if there’s something in the ground that might or will harm the vines, it will surface in the roses first. So, by checking the roses on a regular basis, the manager can curtail or at least be aware of any issues that might be brewing.

So, by stopping to check on the roses (and smell a few), you can accomplish a couple of things. You can check on what’s going on with the ground and the roses and the other items you have growing, but you can also do a self check and look within to see what’s going on with yourself and in your life. So, take a moment, stop and smell the roses. It might be more revealing than you ever imagined.